I was recently flipping through my grandmother, Edit Dewey’s, book “Basic Applications of Adlerian Psychology For Self-Understanding and Human Relationships” when I came upon a poem which she loved so much that she included it in her book. She used to recite this poem from memory to me and my brothers as we were growing up. I wanted to share it with you since it has a nice New Year’s message to it too:
The Tale of The Oyster
There once was an oyster whose story I’ll tell
Who found that some sand had got into his shell.
Just one little grain, but it gave him such pain.
Now did he berate the working of fate
That brought him to such a deplorable state?
Did he curse the government, call that the sea
Should give him protection?
“No,” he said to himself as he lay on the shelf
“Since I cannot remove it, I’ll try to improve it.”
The years rolled by as the years always do
And he came to his ultimate destiny – stew.
And the grain of sand that bothered him so
Was a beautiful pearl, all richly aglow.
Now this tale has a moral, for isn’t it grand
What an oyster can do with a morsel of sand?
What couldn’t we do if we’d only begin
Improving the things that get under our skin?
What a great reminder to challenge ourselves with the task of making those distasteful things in our life better! Too often, we take the easy route, feeling it’s not OUR job to improve matters. WE didn’t ask for such burdens, this is not OUR problem to fix. Such attitudes keep us feeling that grain of sand scratching away at our lives.
Instead, lets acknowledge that in all situations we have a part to play in changing matters! Be nice to the cranky boss, be kinder to your partner though they don’t yet seem to reciprocate, or love up a kid who is always ruining the family fun.
It’s when we are willing to do our part in improving matters that we’ll discover we can all make pearls too! Thanks grandma!