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4 Pillars of Mental Health

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Ways To Ensure Your Mental Health

choices-of-amram-and-jochebed-hebrews-11-23I often refer to William Glasser’s work when helping families with teenagers.  He was a member of The North American Association of Adlerian Psychology ( NASAP) but also had his own brand called Choice Theory and Reality Therapy.  He passed away last year, but he leaves a legacy of work from which we can benefit.  During my recent trip to the Florida Adlerian Society conference, I had an opportunity to attend a full day workshop with Geri Carter and her team.  She shared this adapted resource from Glasser’s work that I think you would appreciate. Why not post it on your fridge as a reminder?


4 Pillars of Mental Health:

  1. We can’t change another person.
  2. We can only change ourself.
  3. Everything is a choice (and that choice has consequences).
  4. Choices connect or disconnect us from others.

As we move through our day,  find examples where we trip up trying to control other’s behaviours, other’s choices, and how we gain closeness or distance based on the behavioural choices we make for ourselves in our parenting.

Happy Parenting


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Alyson has been blogging parenting advice for over 15 years. She has been a panelist at BlogWest, Blissdom, #140NYC and more. Her content appears on sites across Canada and the US, but you can read all her own blog posts right here.

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4 Responses to “4 Pillars of Mental Health”

  1. Brad Sipila

    Hey Alyson. Thanks again for this affirmation. Thank you for increasing my awareness and the collective consciousness. Your happy demeanour brings down the defences and reframes the perspective rapidly! Keep going!!!! Hope to see you in London soon!

  2. Alyson Schafer

    Thanks Brad! Appreciate you being on the Adlerian Parenting team!

  3. Stacy

    Hi Alyson, Thank you for this post. It is a great reminder of what we need to focus our attention on.

  4. Alyson Schafer

    Thanks Stacy, we all need reminders don’t we? -Alyson


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