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Alyson has been blogging parenting advice for over 15 years. She has been a panelist at BlogWest, Blissdom, #140NYC and more. Her content appears on sites across Canada and the US, but you can read all her own blog posts right here.

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2 Responses to “More Reasons to Worry About Boys and School”

  1. Debra

    Hi Alyson,
    I read the article by Peg Tyre. Sadly in the small community where I live, in rural Nova Scotia, the school my son attends recently added a pre-primary.
    I am not impressed. Children need time to be children and simply have fun and play. I think too much structured time is detrimental to their development. I chose to wait until my son was six to send him to primary. This option is available to all parents. It gives their children another year to just be a kid and enjoy playing and unstructured fun time.
    rural Nova Scotia

  2. Heidi

    My son is three, quite calm. My nephews are 4 and 1, extremely active.
    The new street we moved onto is mostly boys. Various ages.
    Some go to private school, some public.
    So I’m observing. Just finished Rudolf Dreikurs book and I’m watching
    these techniques work.
    To sum up I’d say that we expect too much from our boys. We basically
    adopt that they need little positive attention and heap the moralizing
    negative attention on them like we have to groom them into these
    adults that take on all the traditional male roles, PLUS take on all
    of the modern day sensitivities that we expect. We can’t have it all.
    “Don’t cry – you’re not hurt”. “be sweet to your sister even though
    she just hit you first, you must learn to respect women (even though
    your mother shows you no respect as an individual what- so-ever!”
    They are in some ways MORE sensitive than girls and love closeness and
    lots of extra time together.
    I don’t know, I think us Mom’s might not be doing as good of a job as
    we can with our little guys. Working outside the home is great for
    women, but there has to be some corresponding shift within the family
    where everyone is aware that just as much attention is still needed as
    ever was in the “traditional” sense. Maybe Dad works from home or just work something out where at the end of the day these kids feel valued
    and aren’t striving for any sort of attention they can get.


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