Yesterday on the way home from my little jaunt to Montreal to promote my book, I finished the last of the stack of potty training books I am reviewing as my job as a Chapter’s Indigo Trusted Advisor.
I am reminded once again why parents pull their hair out over parenting. These books where all written by people with credentials and while they all espoused the “child-centred” approach, if you actual read the details of what they thought that looked liked – WOW – confusion reigns!
All too often they would say – don’t bribe or pressure, but a sticker chart is always a good idea! NO!!!!!
Other books said be respectful and don’t pressure, let the child lead – but set a timer and make them sit each day at the same time for a set time. WHAT?
In the end – the one that did impress me was Dr Brazelton’s book: Potty Training: The Brazelton Way. He did an excellent job of explaining to parents potty training from the child’s perspective and he emphasizes that a child wants to progress and mature, that with encouragement and confidence they will. But he digs deep into that concept in a way that I think parents need to really “get” this “child lead” approach. Then he explains in lots of deatils and steps exactly how to do this.
I still want to read more potty training books – but at the moment this one is my top recommendation.