There is often confusion around the word praise. Should we praise our children or not? Research shows that praise is demotivating and limits our children. It stimulates a goal of perfectionism that comes at a big cost to our children. Encouragement, on the other hand, spurs our children on, because encouraged children are comfortable making mistakes. They actually enjoy the learning process!
This clip (3:42) does a super job of explaining this phenomenon, but again we see confusion in the use of the language. These women use the term “praise of effort” for what I and my fellow Adlerians would call “encouragement.” I wish all the professionals would get on board with the same language so we don’t further confuse parents who are trying to make sense of all this!